As husbands, as soon as our wives start to tell us anything that we think we might be in trouble for, we often start saying I’m sorry, even before hearing what we need to apologize about specifically. I know I do this. After I start making the rapid fight-or-flight utterance, Amy has asked me, “What are you sorry for?” I stand there looking at her like a Spelling Bee contestant who just got the word he didn’t know how to … Read More
The Same Corner Concept for Marriage: A Game Changer
Repeat after me….. 1. My spouse and I are in the same corner. We are on the same team.2. My spouse is never my enemy. My spouse is never my opponent. In marriage, you are teammates doing life together. But it’s easy to forget this and instead make our spouse the opponent. Improve your marriage with these practical tips to maintain a same-corner mentality. Marriage as a Boxing Ring Picture a boxing ring or UFC Octagon. Now picture you and … Read More
How to Stop Fighting About Money in Your Marriage
Money. It makes the world go ‘round. It is also a source of arguments and fights in marriage. In fact, a recent survey revealed 61% of couples fight over finances or money issues. Sixteen percent broke up as a result. And 80% of spouses spent money secretly (source). Fear is Often at the Root As we say frequently at The Marriage Meeting, anger is often an emotional mask for fear. When married couples fight over money, it is often due to … Read More
Two Words to Avoid In Your Marriage Meeting (and Marriage)
There are two words to avoid in your Marriage Meeting. Always and never. As in: “You always forget to __________.” “You always do ___________.” “You never _____________.” Why You Need to Always Avoid These Words and Never Use Them (See what we did there? ^^) By definition, you always and you never both mean 100% of the time. Always means every single time, your spouse does X. Never means not once has your spouse done Y. “Always” and “never” are … Read More
4-Week Marriage Meeting Challenge Invite | Feb 2020
February is the month of love. One of the most loving things you can do for your marriage is to improve communication with your spouse. Grab a copy of The Marriage Meeting Guide and commit to 4 guided, 30-minute conversations with your spouse once a week in February. Then, let us know the results. Join the many couples experiencing a greater connectedness, improved communication, and fewer arguments as they implement their marriage meeting. Grab your guide and join the challenge. … Read More
Husbands, To Gain Respect From Our Wives We Must Go First
Jump Straight to the Respect Questions Husbands most desire respect as a show of love from their spouse. Researcher Shaunti Feldhahn found that for wives, their highest need is to feel cherished and loved. In contrast, the highest felt need for a husband is to feel his wife’s respect as displayed as trust, honor, and admiration. If you’ve felt the sting of being criticized in public or had your decisions constantly questioned by your bride, you know you didn’t like … Read More
Seasons in Marriage and Life – More Marriage Meeting Questions To Ask
Jump Straight to the Seasons Questions About Seasons Last night in our weekly marriage meeting I, Jordan, was talking about some stress I am feeling in providing financially as it relates to my business and work. This of course was related to Question #4 in The Marriage Meeting Guide. Next year we’ll have four, yes FOUR, kids in college. That stresses me out some if I am being completely transparent. Amy reminded me that this is just a season. That … Read More
How Ascribing Intent or Motive Hurts Our Marriage
We’ve all done it. We’ve looked at our spouse and thought, “I know exactly why he/she did that.” As humans, we seek the meaning behind actions so we are often quick to ascribe motive or intent to an action someone takes. The problem is we cannot be very certain about a person’s intentions or motives, for the simple reason you and I cannot see into the human heart. That is something reserved only for the Creator. But the LORD said … Read More